The Pointless Chase

Okay, it is a fact, people do shiloads of pointless things throughout their life under the umbrella of "everyone does it, so there must be a point to it". Obviously I'm not going to tackle all of them, that would mean arguing with a rough 99% of mankind's actions and would lead us to a (pointless) conversation about the meaning of life and other deep shit. However, I will refer to a recurring theme nowadays, which has me perplexed on how we unnecessarily complicate our lives. And just to clarify, by "we" I mean you including me, as I definitely am prone to such condemnable behaviour.

I will start from the (I hope not far-fetched) assumption that everyone wants to find true love. Or okay, maybe that is a bit too corny. Say the majority of us, the less ambitious, want to find  at least some warm substitute to IT (the true love that is), to snuggle with on the couch on a Sunday afternoon and complain about how shitty our day was. And to talk, fuck, laugh or, what do I know, other actions we supposedly cannot perform as well on our own.

Then comes the typical scenario. Girl meets Boy, or should I say, Woman meets Man, as we're all pretending to be adults here.  They interact a bit and both decide (in their heads only, of course) that they like each other and there's some potential future laughing, talking, fucking, snuggling on couches and complaining about bad days. They play a completely unnecessary game to exchange phone numbers or Facebook IDs, and when they eventually do, the Pointless Chase begins.

Let me explain. You see, as I mentioned before, they both decided they liked each other. However each will go out of their way to prove the contrary, thus earning desirability points (???) . She will not call first because of double standards, because she might seem too eager and easy and all of the such. And of course, because as soon as she shows a bit of interest, it's game over. He will not call the first 3,5,7 days either, because she will then think he's weak or clingy and a potential overly attached boyfriend. And what man in their right mind wants that? And this is just a first sample of the never-ending chase that will follow, to continuously establish who's in a position of power in that relationship, that has not even started yet. Which makes a whole lot of sense, eeerm.

In a happy end scenario, they will manage to hook up. However, they will have wasted a lot of time they could have spend together instead. Factoring in the assumptions that they were both looking for companionship and there was mutual attraction from the very beginning, point proven, the chase was pointless. In a less joyful case scenario, while one of the parties is busy putting all that effort in earning desirability points, the other party (who let's not forget, was interested to begin with) might get bored, or fall in love with a more interesting hunter, playing the game better. Again, point proven, futile chase.

Maybe I am simple minded this way, but I'd say, since we already have a lot of chasing to do in our everyday life anyway, why not make this slight percentage of it easier? You likey, me likey, let's go, no?